According to Denola Grey, the claim gets to him but he also realized that taking it as an offense was a huge problem as well. He concluded his tweet by stating that he has tried to get the jigsaw puzzle of what masculinity should be, but found it was ultimately empty.
His tweets reads;
“You act like a girl” ‘you act like a woman’ . That used to get to me, until I realized that taking it as an offense was a huge problem as well. Why would I be offended because my mannerism fit the script of something I am half of?
Furthermore, the use of my mannerisms being feminine, as an insult further perpetuates and feeds into Heteronormative patriarchal ideals where women are seen as less-than, weaker or possessing qualities that men should not aspire to.
Along the journey of trying to blend in and fit into the jigsaw puzzle of what masculinity should be, I got to the end and found that ultimately it was empty. I had only found fragments of myself in there… not the full picture.